Romantic friendship (how not to destroy it)
Let‘s be honest, we cannot start a relationship out of nowhere. We cannot build an instant „connection“ with someone we just spoke to for an hour or two.
But, there is something… We feel something very subtle. What is it? An effect of nice charming conversation? An effect of laughing together genuinely? An effect of finding someone as intelligent as you? An effect from seeing that someone has the same values as you? An effect from finding a teammate with the same life attitude as you? An effect from finding someone who is as crazy as you? An effect of flattered ego from someone‘s genuine, sweet attention?
It can be anything. And only you know what it is in your case.
But my point here is: do not destroy this subtle sparkle of connection by assuming it immediately as „connection. “
Since we all crave connection, we try to see it everywhere, with everyone. This way, we overburden our psyche, become heavy for ourselves, for that nice guy or nice girl, and eventually bury that subtle/gentle sparkle with our stupid thinking.
Remember, thoughts are like clothes. You literally wear them! 😬
So the most practical advice for not destroying this very fragile, subtle feeling towards someone is — do not stimulate connection in your mind. Right, the keyword here is: do not stimulate. Trust the Universe, trust him/her and trust yourself. Be patient. Patience is a form of courage. 🤌🙂
